The opposite of anonymous: distinctive, named, known.
I like known.
For me, the hardest part about moving across country is leaving the place you are known.
In your home town, friends honk when they see you and wave when they run by.
It might not be true, but it feels like an extra set of eyes are watching your children at school, because the principal knows your name.
The clerk at the laundromat has your dry cleaning pulled and ready to go when she sees your car pull into the parking lot.
Your running group never leaves at 1 minute after your designated meet time because they know you might show up in 5.
When you are sick, or recovering from surgery, you never know which friend or neighbor will show up at the door with dinner, or offer to take your children to play so you can have a quiet house.
And maybe, the waiter at your favorite restaurant will keep your glasses in his front pocket for 3 weeks until you return again, because he just knew you would be back soon.
But then all that knowing gets a little overwhelming.
The more people you know, the more people you have to say good-bye too when you leave.
Sometimes the right words don’t come.
You have to say good-bye to your family, your friends and even people you don’t know very well.
How do you say thank you for the organizational help when you were preparing to show the house, because your friend knows that organizing is really not your “thing?” Or to another that invited the neighborhood and everyone you have ever known in the city to a wonderful goodbye party? And then to your parents that came to every one of their 3 grandchildren’s soccer games, dance recitals, and swim meets not out of obligation but because they really wanted to be there.
The packing and planning and partying and packing and planning and… it all becomes so chaotic, there is a huge crescendo and then you are gone!
You move. And, after you unpack the boxes, and get the kids enrolled in school… it stops.
You become anonymous.
Someone hands you a clean slate.
AFter the craziness that moving can bring the silence of anonymity is nice.
You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do because you have no obligation.
Want to try a new church? Do it.
Want to be a faceless parent in the PTA, you can try.
Grown tired of the traditional furnishings in your house? Get rid of them. Your new town is full of contemporary furniture stores, why don’t you give it a go?
How about a belly dancing class at the gym? No risk someone you know will see that your hips don’t move like the rest of the class because you don’t know anyone!
Ever wondered if blondes really DO have more fun? Of if it is the red color, not part of their personality that give your sweet carrot topped friends their extra spunk? Why don’t you check it out?
Adding a little adventure to my life has helped ease the pain of leaving home. It has been fun! Thursday I entered La Bella Salon in Coral Gables a brunette and left like this:
And I have to tell you, I am feeling a little feisty! With this new color, I need to be careful. It might be hard to remain anonymous with my new flaming head.